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Milagros Relova Nolasco

March 20, 1941 ~ November 16, 2023 (age 82) 82 Years Old

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Born to life March 20, 1941. Born to Eternal Life on November 16, 2023. Mila left us in the most peaceful way, surrounded by her children and one of her grandchildren as she entered heaven. Mila is now reunited with her doting, loving husband, Tom, who passed in July, 2019.

Family was absolutely the most important aspect of Mila’s life. Mila and Tom had celebrated their 55th wedding anniversary in June, 2019 before Tom’s passing. Mila and Tom’s legacy will continue in their children, Aimee (Jim) Weiner, Tom III (Kelly), and Bryan. Mila was the most generous and caring Lola (grandmother) to Adam, Caitlyn, Megan, Robby, Zach and Danny Weiner and Christian and Nicholas Nolasco.

Mila was preceded in death by her parents, Felixberto and Evangelina (nee Alvarez) Relova, and her older sister, Linda Relova. She is survived by her younger brother, James (late Nieves) Relova, and nieces and nephews Sally (Dave), Treena (Martin), Lorena (Rod), Jerome and Justin, as well as many grand nieces and nephews, who were very close to Mila despite being spread over three continents. Mila is also survived by her Alvarez cousin, Joey (Rem) Baylon, M.D. who live in Brookfield, just minutes away from Tom and Mila. The Baylon family provided much companionship since moving to Wisconsin in 1991.

Mila married into the Nolasco family in which Tom was the second of ten children. She was preceded in death by her father and mother in law, Tomas and Demetria. Tom’s family includes Conrado, the late Danilo (Lita), the late Alva (Mario) Santiago, Jorge (Esmerelda), Ramon (Viola), Josie (Malou), Antonio (Carrie), Sammy (Shirley) and Elpidio (Thay) Nolasco, as well as eighteen nieces and nephews.  Mila will also be missed by many other relatives.

Mila was born in Noveleta, Cavite, Philippines, near Manila. Mila grew up near many, many of her cousins, aunts and uncles in a tight knit extended Alvarez family, who are spread all over the globe and remain close to this day.

Mila attended St. Scholastica in Manila, Philippines for her entire educational career and graduated from this institution in 1963 with a degree in accounting. She met the love of her life, Thomas Nolasco, Jr., M.D. at a party while in college. Tom and Mila married in June, 1964. A few weeks later, Tom immigrated to the United States and began his surgical residency. Mila followed Tom in 1967, and they resided in Iowa City, Iowa, where Tom was doing his residency at the University of Iowa. In 1969, Tom and Mila then moved to Wauwatosa, Wisconsin, where Tom completed his residency in pathology at Milwaukee County Hospital, which is now known as Froedtert Hospital.

Tom and Mila built their home in Brookfield, Wisconsin soon after Tom started working at nearby Elmbrook Hospital in the pathology department. Tom and Mila raised their family in this home and lived there throughout the rest of the lives. Decades later, their apo (grandchildren) loved visiting Lolo and Lola (Filipino for grandpa and grandma) in this same home.

Mila’s loyalty to the Philippines did not disappear though she became a US citizen. Frequent trips to Manila and her hometown of Noveleta, Cavite continued throughout her lifetime.

Mila can be described in so many ways: amazing cook, shopaholic extraordinaire, with an almost obsession with shoes, outspoken nature with a creative wit and candor that caused those around her to smile and laugh. She had her own fashionista sense of grace and style. Tougher than tough, Mila also possessed the admirable qualities of loyalty, generosity, kindness and compassion. Most importantly, Mila would have been very insulted if you visited their home and didn’t eat whatever yummy food she had ready to serve at a moment’s notice.

Never having picked up a tennis racket before, Mila started playing tennis soon before Bryan was born when Mila was in her mid 30s. Always a hard worker, Mila took tennis lessons and played tennis with an unsurpassable intensity. Mila and Tom belonged to Highlander (now Highlander Elite) and Western Racquet Club, where Mila spent countless hours perfecting her tennis game. Her determination and perseverance resulted in many, many accolades and accomplishments. What started as a hobby turned into a passion. Soon Mila competed in interclub and several state league tennis teams that rose from the 3.5 level all the way to the 5.0 level, winning titles that allowed them to compete in regional tournaments in Indianapolis, Indiana and beyond. Mila also was the Western Racquet Club Champion in Doubles, a title she loved to interject in conversations when asked who was the best Nolasco tennis player.

In addition to Mila’s tennis prowess, Mila volunteered in numerous ways throughout her life. She was the co-chair-person of the very first FAAWIS (Filipino American Association of Wisconsin) annual dinner dance, a tradition that continues to this day. Mila also volunteered at Brookfield Academy, where her children graduated. Highlights of her many years of service work include co-chairing the first ever International Heritage Fest, also making record amounts of pancit (Filipino noodles) and lumpia (eggrolls) for the event. She was also heard more than seen at BA sporting events for her children. Her loyalty continued to watching athletic competitions for her grandchildren.

In October, 1997, Mila experienced an incredibly intense headache when playing tennis at Western Racquet Club. What was eventually diagnosed as a one centimeter brain aneurysm resulted in brain surgery 12 days later, 18 days in the neurosurgery intensive care unit, and a 28 day hospital stay at Froedtert. God is good and Mila fully recovered from this health scare and lived a full life.

Mila and Tom enjoyed more traveling with family and friends after Tom’s retirement in 2013. They traveled all over the world and made precious memories. Their condo in Sanibel Island, Florida, was their sanctuary where they could play tennis and visit with friends. Tom and Mila both enjoyed spending time with their grandchildren, chauffeuring them and attending their sporting events and other activities.

Throughout Mila’s lifetime, she was a devout Catholic. As her children grew older, she attended daily Mass at St. John Vianney for decades. Since Mila was a regular at Saturday, 4:30pm Mass, she would joke that she would go to Mass every day but on Sunday.

Though not easy for her after Tom’s six month illness and passing in July, 2019, Mila dutifully remained loyal to her children and grandchildren. Bryan stayed with Mila and Aimee and her family lived close by. Tom III visited regularly from Arizona, often with his family. She continued to attend athletic contests and activities for all of her grandchildren as much as possible when the pandemic allowed. The past eighteen months presented health challenges, but, in typical Mila fashion, she rallied and persisted.

In Mila’s final weeks and days, Mila had frequent visits from her children, grandchildren and other family and friends even hours and days before her passing. Most deserving of enormous gratitude goes to Bryan, Tom and Mila’s devoted youngest son, who never left Mila’s side and took special care of her until the end, just as Bryan had with Tom during his illness four years ago. Mila’s family thanks the physicians and nurses at Froedtert Hospital. Her family also recognizes Horizon Home Care and Hospice for their tender, loving watch over Mila in her last months.

Please join us in celebrating Mila’s life. Visitation will be at St. John Vianney Church on 1755 N. Calhoun Road, Brookfield on Friday, December 1 from 4pm until 6pm. Eulogies and the Funeral Mass will follow at 6pm. In keeping with Mila’s wishes, Mila will be buried in Noveleta, Cavite, Philippines.

In lieu of flowers, the family strongly encourages donations to the memorial of your choice.

 

 

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Services

Visitation
Friday
December 1, 2023

4:00 PM to 6:00 PM
St. John Vianney Catholic Church
1755 N. Calhoun Rd.
Brookfield, WI 53045

Mass of Christian Burial
Friday
December 1, 2023

6:00 PM
St. John Vianney Catholic Church
1755 N. Calhoun Rd.
Brookfield, WI 53045

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